Transformation Leadership Coaching. Are you ready for change but don't know how or where to begin? Are you experiencing ministry burnout or frustrations you are unable to tunnel through? Consider hiring a life coach. One who can help you get a new perspective on life and leadership. Eli Wilson Jr., a Certified Life Coach, can help you with those and other issues you may be experiencing in life.

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Welcome to Eli Wilson Ministries -- A Transformational Leadership Coaching Ministry for Church Music Leaders. Our objective is to assist church music leaders accurately connect the art of music to the biblical mandates of ministry. The reinforcing, under girding power of music is an extremely effective tool for changing whomever it touches.  

The church music leader has both the privilege and the responsibility to carve out an effective vision for this very important ministry. George Barna writes,“Unless God’s people have a clear understanding of where they are headed, the probability of a successful journey is severely limited”. Clarity of vision for God’s people comes when the leader understands God's calling on his/herr own life. 

Ministry is relational. Before your people will buy into your vision they must first buy into you  - your personhood, your character and your purpose. The prerequisite to that process is knowing yourself. Being should precede doing.  

Ministries rarely grow beyond the level of its leadership. The power and effectiveness of ministry depends on your willness to be obedient to the call of God on your life and level of HIS spirit in your life.

Ministry and Family


"You Can't Go Where God Leads You and Stay Where You Are".                                           


I've been in full-time ministry for 30 years. I remember when I accepted my first full-time position as Minister of Music at an East New York church in Brooklyn. I was extremely excited about getting an opportunity to do what I was passionate about and get paid for doing it. My excitement lead me to work long hours. I averaged 70 hours per week at the church -- Day time office hours; after school instrumental music program; rehearsals, meetings, and worship services during the evening hours; Graded Choir rehearsals on Saturday mornings; and of course worship on Sundays. 

Our children were very young (6 and 9 years old). One of the ongoing points of tension between my wife and I was the amount of time I was spending with the ministry. My take was, she just doesn't understand what God has called me to do. God has called me to minister to His people and I can't let nothing get in the way of that. 

As I look back over my life in ministry, having spent that kind of time "doing ministry" is one of my greatest regrets. I put the secondary ahead of the primary. While I was focused on the needs of everyone else, my first ministry - my family - was lacking. I once heard it said, "No amount of success in ministry will ever make-up for being a failure at home". 

I'm writing this blog while taking some much needed time away with Brenda. Our children are grown and married now. How I wish I'd made more time for trips like this when they were younger. So, here's a bit of advice - don't let this moment pass you by and: 

1. Don't allow ministry activities to take priority over your family. Your children will grow-up with or without you - it's better if you walk with them while they grow.  

2. If your pastor does not value his family he/she certainly won't value yours. If ministry and family conflict you have a decision to make.

3. The older you get, the more important family becomes. Family keeps you grounded. Family will love and support you no matter what.

4.  Schedule special time with your spouse so that when the children grow-up and leave the nest the two of you aren't strangers.

One of the lessons the Apostle Paul taught young Timothy regarding the qualifications of a leader in the church was "He must manage his own family well and see that his children obey him with proper respect. If any man does not know how to manage his own family, how can he take care of God's church?"  

As you go and grow in your ministry, keep things in perspective. Make your family a priority. 




Eli Wilson Jr.
Transformational Leadership Coach
P.O. Box 680712
Orlando, Florida 32868-0712
(321) 800-1119

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